Sunday, May 14, 2017

Independence and the Extended Single-Life


"Marriage between a man and a woman is ordained of God [and] is essential to His eternal plan." The Family: A Proclamation to the World

In order to start a family a man and a woman must come together under the bonds of matrimony. Once married the two start living together (not beforehand), supporting each other and learning how to manage all the financials of life as partners. These struggles of figuring out how to accomplish their goals in education, career and other financial situations can cause stress in a relationship but they also are what bond a married couple closer together. They each learn together and rely on each others strengths becoming unified as a couple as they overcome obstacles.

However, this is not the way the world has come to think is best for marriages to be successful. In order to avoid the possibilities of financial ruin or the stresses of learning to manage those situations together and ending up divorced from it many people believe that one must become financially independent and settled in a stable career before considering getting married. This idea can be portrayed as "getting ahead before getting wed" (Successful Marriages and Families, 1).

In addition to this idea the trend of cohabitation has risen drastically among many modern relationships. Cohabitation is used as a way to test out the couples compatibility in living together and see if they are ready to marry. In my opinion if you are already willing to be in the same living space as the person you are in a relationship with then that shows you wish to make a larger commitment to them. However, people who feel this is a good way to test their relationship and to decrease the possibility of divorce are absolutely wrong. Studies have shown that those who cohabit before marriage are more likely to divorce than those who do not. Though the research also says there are some advantages to these disadvantages it also states that there are also NO disadvantages for couples who follow the standard of living together only after marriage.

Here is a link to an article on putting off marriage:Delaying Marriage: The Trends and The Consequences

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